To be honest, all these actually makes me wonder about my future. We couldn't just predict it in any other way and I know that nobody on Earth actually have a clear vision of their future. But shouldn't we be curious about it. Who am I in the future ? Where would I be ? How's my life then ? When would I die ? Who would be that special one who would hold my hands until we grow old ?
That special one. I guess there are decisions in life that appears to be the most important ones. And I sincerely hope that by then I would make the right choice.
So far in my life, I haven't got myself into any relationships with anyone yet. Not to mention that I have around 2 crushes. Well I guess I'm those type that is not obvious in showing my love to a guy, you know it's like even I have a crush on him, I treat him like a normal friend but my stomach is the one full of butterflies. So it's not really very obvious larhh, I would try to talk to him but yeahh I wouldn't do so too much times as later it would be obvious to him and then yeahh the guy may not like it. Forget about it. Actually so far there is a couple of people trying to confess to me. But yeahh they weren't brave enough and they actually somehow told their friends and yeahh their friends who is not a good secret keeper actually told me about it. And you know during the very next day of school, it actually makes me feel less comfortable whenever I see him hahaha, I'm serious.
Well, that special one actually doesn't have to be really good looking until he is a heart breaker or something. I think an ordinary guy would do. I'm not those type that really do emphasize on appearance. And yeahh, I don't actually mind how you look like.
Since I'm really really small, I assume when I'm in my elementary school, I once told my dad that the person I am to marry must know how to cook HAHAHAHA. You may find it childish, but I think I've never change that thought before. Last time the reason why I thought so is because I want to be the boss sitting at the chair waiting for food to be cooked, I'm too lazy hahaha. But now the reason why I would think so is that both my dad and my mum are good cook, well they don't work as chefs but they are really good in cooking. As for me and my brother erhem, they said parents who know how to cook their kids don't really know right ? Hahaha I know how to cook simple stuffs larhh. Okayy, the main reason why is that I think guys who know how to cook are really awesome as I don't have to eat those take away food when I'm sick or yeahh under confinement HAHAHAHAH, I think too far sometimes. You know those food outside got a lot of MSG and it's not really healthy plus it's also not cheap. Later my kid not healthy arhh. Somemore home cooked dishes are always the best right ? And it's actually really fun to do groceries together and cook together.
Okay I just found out that a guy being a sense of humor is very important too. I never know that it's important after this year. You know humor guys can make girls feeling happy like so easily. Whenever you are sad or whatsoever, it really do helps if you could do funny stuffs to make her happy. And life would be full of colors then. 'If you can make a girl happy, you can make her do anything.' - Marilyn Monroe. Being happy is actually one of the most important thing, isn't it ? Imagine him making me smile everyday, my life also can live longer sia.
I think the other thing is that he must be a tolerable guy lurhh. You know anyone can go emotional and not-in-a-good-temper at days. I think both sides have to tolerate and yeah I admit it really is tough at times and I must also admit I'm not that good at tolerating. And I must say sometimes I really am a good speaker than a listener, so yeahh people usually say I'm good at debating ._. Mainly because I am really aware about my self esteem or what people call face. So unless I'm really really wrong, I would surrender, but if not hahaha, I'm sorry about it then.
I think guys should be romantic too HAHAHAHA. It really is important to remember those special dates we ha together. Like the date we started to be together, wedding anniversary, valentine's day, oh yeah and birthday. I think by giving a small surprise is romantic enough already, it doesn't need a lot of money used to plan it, maybe a small slice of cake with a candle on it or a DIY card ? Oh and maybe decorate the place during special occasions ? Guys should also be romantic after marriage or even after having their kids growing old. It really is something really sweet to whisper sweet stuffs in the girls ear. Girls like it, trust me.
He has to be older than me. People says that if the men is older than the lady around 6-10 years is actually a perfect match. Why ? Because girls actually will look older when times goes by, you see girls have to give birth and stuffs. And horhh, usually boys are chubby with baby face de lurhh. And the boy have to be taller than me, actually by me stating this is actually quite useless as I'm quite short, I mean short HAHAHAHA.
I am a music lover. I think people who know how to play any musical instruments appear attractive to me. Except for electronic guitar and drums, I don't know I just find it very very noisy. I would be more than happy if he knows piano or classical guitar as both of it is my favourite musical instrument. Oh maybe it's a bonus, if he knows both !! I know how to play piano and I hope we could play duets together. Very romantic right ? Huachi daooo. I have always been playing duets with my brother and it really is fun when we attempt to play together. If he knows guitar, than I guess he could teach me since I actually am really in love with guitar and I wanted to learn guitar but my piano teacher advice me to don't do so as my fingers will then lose the touch when playing piano. And you know, boys looks really cute when they are concentrating playing the musical instruments, no kidding. The little frowns on their foreheads, their eyes not leaving the sheets, and especially when they concentrate until they stick their tongue out a little.
Blur guys are really cute. I mean it. Like the way they look at you, those looks, can melt a heart one you know. Like you wouldn't need find their wrongs. They are too blur to do so. Blurry cute. Wait, is there even this term hahahha. I know you all may be thinking can blur and humor both be in a person. Yes, I have seen a guy before that he is quite blur and he have such a sense of humor. It's really cute to be blur and funny.
I also thinks that it's important if he knows how to ease out awkward situation and to know how to communicate with strangers. I'm so totally not good in both of it. I think guys especially are really good in this compare to girls I know, I don't know but this is my own opinion. Girls as in me included inside are more afraid of being the first to give out a handshake and say hi. Actually all these brings love and kindness to strangers, it is really important to them when they come to a total stranger place without anyone caring for them. I always wanted to say hi but you know I'm actually afraid to do so.
He must be good in talking too larhh, like don't too quiet, I'm those talkative type that if I don't talk for a few hours also will die one HAHAHAH JOKING LARHH, I don't talk when I sleep de. Must know how to find topics although I'm actually good at it also. Self praise lol. And must also help me stand on my rights when people talk bad about me :/ I think u think too much already, touchwood people say bad about me, I'm so good HAHAHAHA.
Boys with too serious mysophobia turns out very headache to me. Honestly, I'm not very clean, yet not very dirty. I'm lazy to do house chores that's why I'm a bit dirty, I mop the floor of my room only once a fortnight HAHAHAH. I don't eat in my room what, just walk in to sleep only. Why mop so often ? I sweep erhem vacuum the floor twice a week lerhh. Okay back to topic, I'm not too dirty because I'm afraid of rats and cockroach staying with me. So yeahh, if you are really aware of cleanliness, ermm I think you have to do house chores yourself lurhh.
I think the other criteria of an ideal guy is that he have to love and respect my parents and family members. I know different family have different rules, culture, tradition and stuffs but yeahh it really is important to respect and try to accept them all. After we get married, I would be calling your parents my parents, and you will also call my parents your parents. So I'm also compromising yours and you should compromise mine too. 'Respect them as in how your respect your parents' should be implant in every marriage couples mind. After we get married, we turn into a single soul spiritually and mentally. The way we think, the way we make decisions and so on are all in one. My parents brought me up, your parents brought you up. So it's also somehow equivalent to my parents and your parents brought both of us up. In conclusion, both of us have to love and respect both our parents :)
Trust. He have to trust in me. No matter with evidence and everything that is against me. He should have know that I would never lie to him, and he should never hesitate on me. We must exchange our trusts between each other, knowing that we would never lie to each other no matter what. With that, no matter how big a problem is, by just trusting each other and totally rely onto each other, nothing on earth couldn't be solved together.
Ohh, he have to know how to handle kids as I'm not good in handling kids but yeahh kids love me WHYYY ?! I also don't know. You know when kids cry, omgosh so irritating. And I don't know how to play with them :') Like I know how to scare kids to ensure they are quiet only HAHAHAHA. So if you want kids, you must make sure you know how to handle them. I will be the obese and without health conscious mum eating candies and snacks over there, I cannot put them down tbh. Guys who knows how to handle kids are actually very handsome and you know girls will fall in love with them. Can treat kids (kids can be demanding sometimes) so well, sure can treat us well de larhh. This theory is like in every girls' mind de okay ?
I think the most important thing of all the above is that he have to love me and to never give up on me no matter what happens. Marriage couples should always remember that. Need not to say it out by words, small actions would actually be seen and remembered in my heart. Action speaks louder than words. A gesture of love actually could lighten up ones day and would let each other know that we need each other to live on. Nobody could stand between and against us. We need to hold each others hand tightly no matter how big the storm is, and to always remember a rainbow is ahead of us, just hold on tighter and happiness will come. That kind of love for each other are actually the ones that makes a marriage or relationship bond stronger.
Love is not just it, it's something that last for a lifetime.